Insensitive People and How to Cope

An anomaly that I hadn't previously been aware of; there is no apparent social stigma against people trying to lure a husband/boyfriend/fiance/significant other away from his/her pregnant counterpart.

In recent weeks I've noticed several instances of this: my fiance's manager at his delivery job asked him to go out to a club, saying that he could introduce him to some very hot women there. Dane, like the wonderful man he is, reminded his manager that he had a pregnant girlfriend at home waiting for him, and his manager looked at him like he was nuts. Dane did want to go out that night, but he called me and explained the situation first. I told him to go out and have fun, because he deserved some fun time for being so wonderful. His manager spent the night trying to get Dane to hook up with other people. It didn't work, but still, I was very insulted. Even if we weren't very much in love and happy together, you don't do that to a couple expecting a child. It's just rude.

Another instance occurred with me standing right there. We were at this same club (this time I decided to come too) two weeks later, and upon preparing to leave a woman starts very blatantly flirting with Dane. Needless to say, I was the only woman there who was pregnant, let alone 7 months pregnant, so I kind of stood out. This girl was pretty, and knew it. She sort of started inching closer and closer to Dane, until they were pretty much hip to hip, and then made a cutting comment about how he could have a much more satisfying private life if he would go with her. Then she made a very mean reference to the fact that she was quite thin, and I... well, I'm carrying a soccer ball under my shirt these days, I'm no twig. I was shocked, no one has made a disparaging remark about my weight in my life, and here I was with this woman calling me fat to my face while I was pregnant.

This is something I haven't quite mastered coping with, but in order to put it into perspective, I've chosen to think about it like this: they can't possibly have as much meaning in their lives as I have in mine while I prepare for the birth of my daughter, and this means they have no frame of reference for what I'm going though as a parent. It is sad for them that they have this lack of depth. The best thing to do is smile, possibly flip them the bird as you turn and walk away, then avoid further contact with that individual.